Posted on: Sunday, September 9th, 2012
As a Calgary Marriage Counsellor I often am faced with the situation where I am helping a couple come out of a gridlock situation on an important issue. It is rarely about just give and take. First the relationship has to be made safe enough for each to feel like they are not losing out entirely and that a basic aspect of their belief or value system will be represented in the compromise. Dr John Gottman explains briefly why compromise can seem so difficult at times.